Wednesday, May 21, 2008


If there is one little everyday thing I hate and fear, it is this.

Calling someone on the telephone and asking them to do something.

Reminder calls to the Young Women got easier with time. But soliciting somebody to bring a plate of brownies to some function or other will still virtually send me into a cold sweat.

Calling around for a backup babysitter for Z when our regular sitter is sick or has something to do with her kids (she is also a foster mom so life is about as busy for her as it is for me) is paralyzing. I am well aware that stay-at-home moms have a lot to do. And although I consider the women around here to be my friends, let's face facts: we do not get together for pedicures or bunco. I do not have time. So when I call them, they know I am looking for a favor. Even if it is a favor for which I will pay, it makes me feel like a heel. There are several people I am not even comfortable calling anymore. They have said no frequently enough that I just am not going to ask anymore. I can take a hint, see?

So, I have been working from home with Z for the last two days, thanks to the stomach flu in the sitter's house. Looks like I am doing it again tomorrow, unless I can convince G that one day is not going to throw off his dissertation. It's fun, I love it, don't get me wrong. But I can't get squat done, and I have a Friday deadline. Sigh.

It's good, I suppose, to be clear about my reasons for not trying to move into the better-paying, better-dressed fundraising wing of my office. Can you imagine me doing "the ask" for a cool million? I'd be puking on the cool millionaire's shoes.


Anne/2rosebud said...

I am so right there with you on the phone calls! I absolutely hate asking for things. Even things that I need to do my calling. I'll put it off until it's so late that I have to do it myself.

This is a little late for tomorrow, but how about this on Sunday? Have the RSP pass around a sign up sheet for those who are interested and able to babysit. I think I did something similar, but ended up just having her announce it (I ended up using my SIL, though). But, this way, you'll have a list you of people you know are willing to do this, and that might take a bit of the anxiety out of it.

Oh....would your hubby call around to find a sitter for you guys? Mine wouldn't, but it's worth a shot if yours will, lol!

Sending some empowering 'phone calling vibes' your way!!!


Denise said...

Oh, I so hear you on this! The phone is not my friend. I'll gab happily for hours on it, but ask me to make reminder calls for choir or find a sub for primary, and suddenly the phone develops fangs.

My nightmare job is one where I have to ask other people for things. Sales. Fundraising. Surveys. Not for me. I totally get you.

Kari said...

I can call and ask someone to bring a plate of brownies, but I couldn't easily call and ask someone to take my kids. I think because I know what a huge task it is and because I don't feel I have the patience to do it much for any extra's.

I hope something works out for you soon though!!!!

Rachel said...

I'm with you. My most dreaded calling was visiting teaching supervisor. Every month on the phone begging people to do that which they already felt guilty about.

May you find a child care situation that allows you to be phone free!

MaryRuth said...

I hate the phone. I still bribe my mom in to making the really hard calls for me :)

If I was local and didn't work full time I'd be happy to watch your little one for you. I know that doesn't really help...