I was speaking to my sister-in-law about funny things Marc does at daycare that he won't do at home. For instance, he will take any medicine without a fuss from Miss Cynthia, but absolutely refuses to take medicine from me. He will under no circumstances eat any vegetables unless they are the same ones Miss Cynthia makes (Del Monte, by the way - I found out to avoid further dinnertime drama). Little things like this that I personally find amusing.
My SIL, however, told me that would really upset her. She was bothered by the idea of her kids having "two mothers". I guess in a sense, she is right. My children spend about half of their waking hours with Miss Cynthia. They are very bonded to her. She kisses their booboos and has helped them learn to walk and talk. She was there for my daughter's first steps and she potty trained my son. During the Summer (when they stay home with my husband) they will sometimes ask to go visit her. She has been invited to all of their birthday parties.
It shocked me, though, that my SIL was upset by this. The truth is, after going through multiple caregivers, I was SO relieved to find Miss Cynthia. I trust her with my children and I know she is a good, honest, caring mother, but she is also an excellent teacher and probably stricter with them than I am at times. It never occurred to me to be jealous of that bond.
I'm curious as to how other working moms feel about this. Do you ever get jealous of your daycare provider? Do your children have quirks that are different with you vs. her?