I had a big heart-to-heart with Dr. G-to-be last night wherein he told me that I am just too stressed and it is affecting my family. He is really right. I have smoke coming out of my ears about 90% of the time I am with my family.
I did tell him that the words "don't stress out" don't really do much to relieve my stress. Go figure. This whole, "you do everything while I write my dissertation" business is kind of hard on me.
I am supremely disappointed at how little stress relief has come from my reduction in work hours this summer. I really thought it would help more.
Anyway, here are my questions. I sincerely want your answers. I truly intend to carry my load a little better.
- What do you do to de-stress in five minutes or less on a zero budget? In other words, when there is smoke coming out of your ears, how do you quickly put out the fire?
- How do you cope when everybody needs something and you're still just one person who, by the way, also needs to take care of herself?
- How do you teach your kids to be more self-sufficient and motivate them to take care of themselves a little bit, without making them feel guilty for causing your stress?
G, by the way, has also pledged some improvements, for which I am grateful.